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My husband is retired and doesn't have many interests. He has always loved television, and now he spends every evening in front of the t.v. I've tried to interest him in various activities, but he gives excuses and declines. I think he is content. I am not, but I'm afraid that if I give myself to other interests and enjoy my life apart from him, our relationship will dwindle to nothing. I have an interesting job and could develop it into a career or I could become involved in personal ministry.
I suggest that you get a copy of The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner. It helps us understand the difference between co-dependency and compassion. Just because he seems to have settled on watching life as a picture, doesn't mean you have to also. However, don't totally ignore him. Spend a couple of nights a week with him in front of the TV. You might even talk a little while he is watching and during commercials. Fill him in on the exciting things that are going on out in the real world. Develop your career a little but don't let it get as consuming to you as TV is to him. Read the book and let me know what you think.