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I am a happily married woman, with a very loving and supporting husband. We have been married for five years now. Of late I have befriended a man who is five years younger than me. He started calling me regularly and saying all the beautiful things a woman wants to hear. He has become my obsession. I don't know if I love him or not, but I keep thinking of him day and night.
An affair is an affair. You are in an emotional affair and if you want your marriage to work then you will have to work harder at it. If you are working full-time, taking care of your home and maintaining your relationship with your husband, I wonder how you have time for this other man. Do you get obsessive-compulsive about other things? I'm afraid that you will be the one who ends up being hurt with this flirtatious game that you are attempting to play. Some people can play and not get hurt, but my mailbag is full of broken hearted people who tried to play two relationships at a time. You can learn how to use thought-stopping to get this guy out of your head. Dr. Ginger
Dr. Ginger Gabriel, Ph.D., M.F.T., is an author and speaker as well as a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California. With Master of Arts degrees in counseling and missions and a Ph.D. in psychology, she has traveled to Asia, the Middle East and throughout North American giving her four-to fifteen-hour relationship and counseling skill-building seminars.
Her favorite pastimes are kayaking, quilting, hiking and reading novels. She is married to Dr. Stan Gabriel. They have three children and three grandchildren.